Casual Dating Abbreviation Glossary
69: When two people give each other oral sex at the same time.
Aftercare: Coined by the kink community, the term "aftercare" is the practice of checking in with your partner(s) after sex to make sure they had a good, safe, and hopefully thrilling experience.
Alpha: The dominant partner in a couple or group. Similar to top, but more commonly used by the straight than the LGBT community.
ASL: Age, Sex, Location? Usually an acronym used to quickly ask for information so the person knows if they want to continue chatting.
ATM: Ass To Mouth sex.
Back door: Your butthole.
Bareback: Any penetrative sex (vaginal, anal, etc.) where no protection or condoms are used.
BBC: Big Black Cock.
BBW: Big Beautiful Woman, or a woman who is considered plus sized.
Bear: A large, hairy gay man.
Blow and go: A quick blowjob with no reciprocation, lingering, or full sex. Get sucked and leave.
Boi: A flexible term referring to someone with youthful or boyish masculine traits. Can describe an FTM, masculine woman, or twink.
Boipussy: Your butthole. A term used by some gay men and people in trans or crossdressing communities.
BDSM: Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism.
Bottom: Anyone in a homosexual relationship or situation who takes the submissive role.
Bukkake: A sex act in which multiple men ejaculate on another person.
Bull: The man who has sex with another man's wife in a cuckolding relationship.
BWC: Big White Cock.
Car meets / Car play: Discreet sex, often oral, in a parked car. Used when hosting is not available.
Certs: Swinger slang meaning others vouch for you as a decent, usually clean or DDF person.
Cis / cisman / ciswoman: A person who identifies with the gender assigned at birth.
Clean: Usually means drug free and free of STDs, not just personal hygiene.
Cockblocking: Preventing someone from having sex with another person. Sometimes a fetish in group dynamics.
Creampie: Ejaculating inside a partner without a condom, resulting in visible semen.
Creampie eating: Sucking semen out of a vagina or anus that has been creampied.
Crossdressing / Crossdresser: Dressing as another gender without identifying as trans.
Cougar: A woman who seeks younger men for sexual or romantic relationships.
Cum dump: Someone who receives multiple ejaculations, typically in group or raw scenarios.
Cuckold / Cuckolding: A fetish involving arousal from one's partner having sex with others.
Cunilingus: Oral sex performed on a woman.
DDF: Drug and Disease Free.
Deepthroat: Oral sex involving taking the penis fully into the throat.
DL (Down Low): Discreet or closeted behavior, common in M4M contexts.
Docking: Two uncircumcised men connecting penises via foreskin.
Dogging: Having sex with strangers in public or semi public places.
Dom / Domme: The dominant person in a BDSM interaction.
DP / Double Penetration: Vaginal and anal penetration simultaneously.
DV / DVP: Double vaginal penetration.
Edge Play: Kink activities that push personal boundaries.
Edging: Delaying orgasm intentionally.
Exhibitionist: Someone aroused by being watched.
Face-sitting: Receiving oral sex by sitting on a partner’s face.
Facial: Ejaculating on someone’s face.
Felching: Eating semen from an anus.
Fellatio: Oral sex performed on a man.
Feminization: Dominant roleplay involving enforced feminine behavior.
FFM / MFF: A threesome with two women and one man.
Figging: Inserting raw ginger into the vagina or anus.
Finger / Fingering: Penetration with fingers for sexual pleasure.
Fluid-bonded: Having unprotected sex exclusively with a partner.
Frogging: Rear penetration with minimal body contact.
Frottage: Rubbing against someone for sexual pleasure.
FTM: Female to male transgender person.
Full swap: Swinger term for full partner exchange including penetration.
FWB / Friends With Benefits: Friendship combined with sex but no romance.
Gang bang: One person having sex with three or more partners.
GGG: Good, Giving, and Game.
Gloryhole: Sex through a hole in a wall.
Heteroflexible: Mostly straight but occasionally same sex behavior.
HJ: Handjob.
Hosting: Providing a private place for a hookup.
Hotwife: A married woman encouraged to sleep with others.
HWP: Height and weight proportionate.
HMU: Hit me up.
IRL: In real life.
ISO: In search of.
J/O: Jerk off.
Lifestyle: Swinging or open relationship community.
LTR: Long term relationship.
M4M: Men for men.
M4W: Men for women.
Menage a trois: Threesome.
MILF: Attractive older woman.
MMF: Threesome with bisexual interaction between men.
Munch: Social meetup for kink communities.
NSA: No strings attached.
NSFW: Not safe for work.
Otter: A slim, hairy gay man.
Pansexual: Attraction regardless of gender.
Pegging: Anal penetration of a man with a strap on.
Poly / Polyamorous: Multiple romantic and sexual relationships.
Raw: Unprotected sex.
Rim Job: Oral stimulation of the anus.
Spinner: Petite woman.
Sub: Submissive partner.
Switch: Someone who enjoys both dom and sub roles.
Top: Dominant partner in homosexual sex.
Tradie: Australian slang for tradesman.
Twink: Young, slim gay man.
Unicorn: Woman willing to join a couple for a threesome.
Vanilla: Non kinky sex.
W4M: Women for men.
W4W: Women for women.